Life is fragile-first thought on my mind after hearing the news about serious illness of one of my friends, who is just thirty nine ! After struggling through a night of anxiety over how it could not have happened or could have been detected earlier, how to be of help and comfort to them and at the same time feel less insecure about my own life, the only comforting solution to such an unpredictable situation in life that comes to my mind is that if instead of holding very tightly onto the small unit of family formed on the basis of blood relations, we have bonding and harmony with people around us, life will be less painful. Let the feelings be less intense but with a long range. Life being just as unpredictable as it is, keeps throwing challenges big or small at us. In times like this I realise that it is just a random process, anyone any time can be next one to get hit. Also it is a matter of frame of reference again. From our frame of reference after all how much attention we pay when in a colony of ants one ends up crushing a few ! And from a much bigger frame- say top of the planet or some place further away - the entire human race will be just another such colony !! We, individually may not matter in the grand scheme of things. At the same time while we are in this colony things that happen around us, in our spheres of life, in our frames make an impact on our quality of life. But the only thing in our control is our reaction to the different situations. Most of the time we react much more emotionally and sensitively than required and the reason to act like that comes from our basic insecurities and fears. I feel that if we are genuinely bonded to each other based on the simple fact that we all are identical at some level and the differences between us are just on account of the diversity in nature and are here together in this journey of life with same basic needs and feelings, we shall fare much better in handling painful and disappointing events as a race as well as individually. I do not know how much sense it makes to all but these thoughts invade my mind and give comfort and at the same time overwhelm me !